The Quarter-Life Crisis
"You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for yourself and while wining the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender! What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out."
Is that what this is? A quarter-life crisis? (sigh). What's wrong with me? I haven't even gotten through the first semester of grad school and I'm already considering a PhD. I know what I want to be, but not when I want to become it. I know where I want to go, but not how to get there. But then again, I have plenty of things my other friends don't have...a fantastic relationship (the dating pool is dangerous, you need health insurance out there!), I've traveled to and lived in more countries than most of my friends will ever be able to, I know what I want to be "when I grow up", I know where I'll be three years from now.
I don't want to turn 30 because I think its old. Too old for what? I haven't exactly sat on my bum these past few years watching time go by. For some reason I think that time is running out...at some point I have to start a family and everyone knows that babies change your life forever and stop your life dead in it's tracks for a few (many, many...) years. There are so many things I wan to do. My father is past 50 and he's done heaps and is still doing stuff.
I guess I just don't want to wake up one day in the same shirt I've worn for the past two days, smeared in baby food and a green pea stuck in my hair and remember all of those "dreams" and aspirations I had...
I think I've been watching too much Super Nanny. That's what it is. It's Super Nanny.
posted by Dirty Flamingo @ 7:13 pm
3 Comments:
I HAVE TO TELL YOU THAT YEAH YOUR RIGHT THAT BABIES DO CHANGE YOUR LIFE BUT FOR THE BETTER BECAUSE YOU CAN STILL DO SOME OF THE THINGS YOU ALWAYS WANTED TO DO ITS JUST GOING TO BE THAT MUCH HARDER BUT THEY ARE WORTH IT BECAUSE I KNOW I HAVE THE BEST OF ELLIOT & NOTHING IN THE WORLD CAN CHANGE THAT I GREATLY APPRECIATE WHAT BLESSING HE HAS GIVEN ME WITHOUT THEM WHERE WOULD I BE? I CAN'T THINK THAT WAY LIKE YOU I HAVE DONE EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING YOU COULD DO AND I GUESS IT WAS JUST MY TIME TO BE A MOTHER WHICH AT TIME IS HARD BUT WELL WORTH IT YOU WILL KNOW WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT WHEN YOU DO HAVE KIDS THEY ARE THE MOST PRECIOUS PEOPLE IN THE WORLD WITHOUT THEM I AM NOTHING I'M JUST GLAD I HAD THEM NOW AND NOT LATER I AM GLAD I AM NOT GUNNA BE A MOTHER AT 30 OR OLDER I CAN STILL BE YOUNG MOM WITH MY KIDS:) ITS TRUE THAT THEY ALTER YOUR LIFE BUT FOR THE BETTER YOU WILL SEE THAT ONE DAY KIDS ARE NOT A BURDEN THEY ARE A GIFT A BLESSING SOMEONE TO CHERISH FOR THE REST OF LIFE. I HOPE YOU SEE THINGS DIFFERENTLY ONE DAY.
I see your point of view. I don't think kids are a burden in general, just right now at this point in my life, they would be a burden. Kids would alter my life and while I applaud every other 23 year old who feels they are ready to be mothers or "its their time", good on them.
One day, when I'm ready I'll have kids, I'll have HEAPS of them, I'll have that blessing, I'll have it all. Right now, balancing an academic life and a personal is hard enough. I don't need kids in the picture to make it all complicated. Kids only change your life for the better if they come at the right time.
That is definately not right now. Nor two years down the road. I'm siding with Super Nanny.
HEY I UNSERDTAND WHAT YOU AE TRYING TO SAY BUT HONESTLY I HAVE NEVER SEEN SUPER NANNY SO I COULDN'T. BUT I HAVE TO TELL YOU THERE IS NO RIGHT TIME TO HAVE CHILDREN BECAUSE WHAT IF THAT ONE DAY YOU DECIDE YOU WANT TO HAVE ONE AND YOU CAN'T? I SAY THAT BECAUSE REMEMBER LIKE OUR FACORITE SHOW SEX & THE CITY CHAROLTTE SO WANTED KIDS AND COULDN'T AND HONESTLY MY SISTER IS IN THAT SAME PERDICTAMENT HER FIRST CHILD IS 9 AND NOW SHE'S HAVING A HARD TIME CONCIEVEING AND IT MAKES ME FEEL BAD BECAUSE I GET PREGENANT PREGNANT SO EASILY AND ALOT (6 TIMES) MY FAMILY CALLS ME A RABBIT(LOL). ANYWAYS BUT THATS GOOD THAT YOU WANT TO DO YOUR SCHOOL THING FIRST. HEY I NEVER GOT THOSE PICS YOU SENT CAN YOU SEND TO MY MSN ADDRESS. GOOD LUCK:)
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